Worrying about our presence is not something that naturally occurs to us. It is a man-made product of our society and we are obedient consumers who are taught to eat this shit in order to be likable. It takes a lot of work to go against your old habits, against media and your surroundings, start loving your body the way it is, not compete with anyone, even with your previous self, see beauty in someone but not lessen your own.
Living in the skinniest body possible and coming back to my normal shape taught me that I have to build my own happiness for myself.
This month's Virtual Girlfriend is Leandra Medine, founder of the Man Repeller.
Superwoman packed into a human body, she established a space for women where "being pretty" is not the factor that determines your whole existence. In their words: "It’s an award-winning multi-media business and a global community of bright, interested and interesting people who know that fashion, humor and intelligence are not mutually exclusive." - MR.com.
If you as me, not happy with an idea of becoming the person who never stops Instagramming, but growing your following is vital for you, you as a brand or your business, then let me share some of my secrets that can help you not only promote your Instagrambut also stay sane.
This series, however, is dedicated to the women who, for the most part, don't know about my existence but who contributed a lot to my own perception of life, style, love (wink, read on...) as they did to a lot of other admirers of theirs.
Please enjoy meeting Garance, my virtual girlfriend.
We took photos of six women wearing underwear designed by Russian designers and asked them to talk about the evolution of the relationship they have with their own bodies, and if it is difficult to show themselves “the way they are” in a world where beauty is so strictly regimented.
We've all struggled in front of the camera - in a mirror you see yourself differently from what you get on photographs. As a photographer, I know this very well. That's why I made a video for you guys that will really help you find your best angle and show you simple tricks that can change the way you see yourself in photographs.
We, women, are very sensitive to the topic of our appearance, usually being so far from objective and ready to hurt ourselves in order to make a fantasy come true. We can be so lost in it, so blameful. When we think we are making ourselves better, we are actually just wasting time-fighting the shadow.
How many words have been said on this topic already? It is always easier to give advice than actually follow it. Of course, no one knows about your problems better than you, because you are the one who lives with this body, not them. You are the one who looks at the mirror and sees every imperfection. You are the one who feels uncomfortable in your own skin. You are the one who tried a million recipes on how to become a better version of yourself.
But you know, this is all fear. None of the methods will work until you gain enough strength to look at yourself and recognize the perfection of yourself at this current moment.
I'd never been the skinniest girl in a room before, and I doubt I ever wanted it. I've never been a diet addict and my measurements were consistent from about age 15 to 20. I got along with myself very well and didn't think of making changes to my body. I've never been told that I have to lose weight in order to look more attractive.
Boudoir photo sessions are a very intimate act. Not everyone can open up themselves to the camera, and another person behind it. Working with people, I notice there are certain ways of thinking that can become the reason for feeling uncomfortable and maybe even disappointed at the beginning. That’s why I’ve decided to summarize and share with you tips that will help you to embrace yourself the way you want.