Boudoir photo sessions are a very intimate act. Not everyone can open up themselves to the camera, and another person behind it. Working with people, I notice there are certain ways of thinking that can become the reason for feeling uncomfortable and maybe even disappointed at the beginning. That’s why I’ve decided to summarize and share with you tips that will help you to embrace yourself the way you want.
Learn your body. The day before the shoot, before posing in front of the lens, dedicate some time to just simply learning your body. Make sure to find a time when there is no one around, look at the mirror and memorize how your body looks. We live with it our entire life and even if we think we know it, not everyone can actually say they know it well. Every day we wake up, take off PJs, throw on some clothes and go to school/college/work. We don’t look at ourselves in the shower. We basically don’t look at ourselves at all. You might know that there is some pimple on your forehead, that you have long fingers or thin hips. Try to take your time and pay more attention to what your body looks like, this is your best friend that is with you young or old, successful or unsuccessful, rich or poor. So really dedicate yourself to your friend, honor it and be grateful for its friendship.
Inspire. A lot of times we catch ourselves totally confused when the camera turns to us. We are just lost and have no idea of what to do. And that’s okay, no one teaches us how to act in such a situation. It might be a good idea to go deep into the internet or pick up a good fashion publication and just go through searching for something that really inspires you. Also, side note, works of the greatest photographers can be really helpful. Notice that most of the time models in them are pretty relaxed. This is the kind of mood you are looking for.
Relax and treat yourself kindly. This is more a rule than a tip. Take it and use it every day. Don’t worry about your appearance on the photos too much, you and your photographer will figure it out during the shoot. Focus on your strong sides and bring up your personality. Remember what you are doing it for and don’t stress. Your intimate space is your temple - that’s your state of mind and you are the only one who it belongs to. Your good mood is key to great photos at the end.
Do it for yourself. You are not there to seduce the photographer (even if it’s your beloved who is taking photos). You are not there to show the most complicated sexy postures. You are there to document your body in the current moment, in its boundless beauty of just being, in the intimate, vulnerable and at the same time strong condition. Don’t worry about a wide white tooth smile or the playful squint of eyes. Stay present, move naturally, use the body as an instrument to embrace your soul.
At the end I’d love to share with you one example that also might help you to feel more confident. Imagine an early morning in bed, you are waking up with your beloved. These first minutes of the day are the most candid moments, when we are being the true us before we start to layer up. And you are loved before you will wear any makeup and clothes. You are beautiful, you are sexy, you are loved. Unconditionally. This is the time when we are all embracing ourselves the most by being vulnerably uncovered.
I hope these tips will help you to not only get the most of your boudoir photo session but maybe you will even look at yourself from a different angle.