So diets aren’t working for you? You’ve tried so hard today to eat one apple and workout twice? You’ve been losing weight, but there is a part of you that still isn’t perfect? Cutting meal sizes or counting calories or avoiding carbs have never helped you? You aren’t happy with yourself?
You think you take good care of yourself, following everything they say is supposed to bring you to a better shape? You think you’ll be more desirable, interesting, successful? But consider this - is diet the result of having no self-love?
You will never be more beautiful than you are right now at this moment. You have everything you need at this time. You have your perfect body, perfect shapes, perfect face. But you are missing something - you are missing love. This is the missing ingredient that makes you seek for an abstract “betterness”.
There is a big difference between being a self-lover and loving yourself narcissistically. I wish they could teach us this at school, it would be so much more useful than the algebra class I remember nothing from.
We, women, are very sensitive to the topic of our appearance, usually being so far from objective and ready to hurt ourselves in order to make a fantasy come true. We can be so lost in it, so blameful. When we think we are making ourselves better, we are actually just wasting time-fighting the shadow.
Some people, for example, are even scared of body positivity as it can grow the quantity of “ugliness” in the world. I didn’t make it up, this is what people say. It’s nonsense to consider any positivity as a harm. Positivity can’t be ugly. To make any changes to ourselves for the better, we should have loving intentions first. I know I sound very yogi now, and you have every right to close this window. But while you are hating yourself for having a few extra pounds, you will still hate yourself when you are rid of them. Start to truly take care of your health. Start to take care of your feelings and thoughts, your state of mind. You are already perfect, so just choose all perfect for yourself. Neither pizza after a few cocktails at night nor maniacal calculation of calories will bring you peace. No one cares about your appearance, really, no one. Stop worrying about hiding your imperfections, be a good friend, be unique and the authentic person that you are. Don't be scared, take responsibilities. Make changes, not punishments.
Happy people are the most beautiful people. Body positivity is the best trend I am witnessing right now.